New Beginnings & Journeys: Immediately on Ask Honey

I wrote this story about new beginnings and journeys a few years in the past in response to a reader’s query. These of you who’ve been with me for some time could bear in mind my “Ask Honey” posts. Properly, I’ve been pondering bringing it again. Would that be one thing you desire to? Please let me know within the feedback, and by all means, ask away! I like answering your questions and serving to you if I’m ready.

I selected to revisit this story as I all the time consider newness within the spring. It’s a time for progress and making an attempt new issues. Please learn on to listen to my ideas on new beginnings and journeys.

New Beginnings & Journeys!

My Final Concierge and I bought our second dwelling within the California desert. It has been a 28-year journey and  I’m abundantly blissful. I really feel freshness within the air. Naturally, I’ll miss our dwelling; a house constructed and full of love and tales. A house we constructed along with a harmonious crew of execs. There was not one sad day till the final week when the decorator and the landscaper had two totally different concepts. The decorator wished ficus timber. The landscaper stated they might by no means dwell. Twenty-eight years later, after he stated to the Decorator, “Okay, I’ll plant your f-ing ficus,” they’re alive and gorgeous going throughout the whole width of our home.

I may even miss my olive tree outdoors my small patio and Rosa, my housekeeper and pal, for the reason that day I moved into our dwelling. I’ll carry my reminiscences and my tales in my coronary heart eternally and stroll away hand-in-hand with my Final Concierge and our pooch, America, by no means wanting again however questioning what the subsequent journey holds in retailer.

Earlier than you start any journey, even signing up for a course, collect your ideas collectively, and have a optimistic and thrilling imaginative and prescient earlier than you soar into your journey.

Each Day is a Journey!

Darling, each day is a journey. Some journeys are small, some giant, some candy, some unhappy, some thrilling, some thrilling, some questioning, and a few fallacious. The objective of each journey is to achieve a vacation spot with readability and contentment.

“It’s the Journey, not the vacation spot.” All journeys start with a thought. The backwards and forwards questions we ask ourselves ultimately remodel ideas into selections. The prize is reaching a vacation spot with no remorse.

Earlier than an necessary choice is reached, one should take a psychological stock of their emotional wants. Wrestling backwards and forwards with the, “Ought to I, or shouldn’t I?” is the traditional means of a journey. Taking the time to query your emotions and weigh each possibility is a present you owe to your self. A real feeling of order will ultimately come in case you are trustworthy with your self. On the finish of a journey, your objective is to really feel you’re in concord together with your choice and vacation spot.

Making the Flawed Selections

This journey to go away California took 28 years of my life. I leaped. I had robust doubts and but stated sure once I wished to say no. And, I rationalized with my ideas. I stated to myself, “I’ll adapt as a result of I’m very adaptable.” However, I by no means did as a result of I couldn’t. I’m a nature gal, and in 28 years I might by no means modify to a desert surroundings. Darling, I felt emotionally bare within the desert, whereas once I lived in Honolulu, I liked the sound of the ocean, the odor of the salt, the flora, and fauna. I felt the surroundings wrap its arms round me.

The ethical of my story is: Earlier than you start any journey, even signing up for a course, collect your ideas collectively, and have a optimistic and thrilling imaginative and prescient earlier than you soar into your journey.

I’ll take it one step additional as a result of I don’t need you to do what I did. You see I tried to make myself blissful. It doesn’t work. My recommendation is to stroll away. There might be different journeys.

Making an attempt to Make It Work

I attempted so onerous. I discovered to play playing cards, I turned a golfer, I made new associates, we entertained usually. We constructed a house collectively that was one of many prime joys of my life. The within of our dwelling was in contact with nature. I assumed this may make me blissful. However, it didn’t.

I’ve all the time been adaptable so I performed a recreation with my emotions; “I’ll adapt.” However, I couldn’t modify to the desert surroundings. My biggest loves are my husband, our giant household and America, our pooch, the ocean, and a tropical surroundings. To this present day, the one concord I’ve with nature within the desert are the olive timber.

Our Subsequent Journey

It’s fascinating that the primary query on everybody’s thoughts is, “The place are you going to maneuver?” It isn’t on my thoughts as a result of I’m not prepared to start a brand new journey–I’ve every little thing I would like. And I’ve complete readability of objective and the final thought on my thoughts is to be encumbered with, “The place are we going to maneuver?”

I do know this. I discovered an necessary lesson that took me on a 28-year journey earlier than I reached my vacation spot. However, I’ll by no means enable myself to be pliable. As a substitute, I might be inflexible and in concord with my ideas earlier than I start a brand new journey.

I’ve every little thing I would like. Not solely that, I’ve complete readability proper now, and I don’t wish to be encumbered with ‘what’s subsequent.’ I wish to be free. What I’ll ultimately want will come to me when the timing and the journey is correct.

Ask me questions. If I can provide you sound recommendation, it’ll all the time be my pleasure. I’m smiling!

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